Berlin is a place where many people come for a new start, and there’s a sense of freedom to create yourself here, which can be wonderful. It can also be fairly anxiety-inducing! It’s easy for confidence in yourself to slip sometimes, and to doubt whether you’ve got what it takes, or if you’re really following the right path. Berlin can also be a tough place to feel connected to others or to feel a sense of community, which leaves many people feeling lost and alone.
Although many struggle with symptoms of anxiety and panic in Berlin, and might look for help, navigating the health system can be a bit daunting, and the idea of expressing your inner states in another language might not seem possible. There is a good directory for English-speaking psychotherapists, as well as a fair bit of “black market” of therapy and counselling in response to long waiting-lists. There’s also a lot of other helpful English options related to mindfulness and the body, which can be helpful, like yoga, qi gong and many approaches to dance and movement.
I want to share a few tips here that you could do for yourself. I work with a lot of people on getting relief from anxiety, using a body-based approach. It’s a bit like combining mindfulness and touch with psychotherapy; I teach people to notice what is happening on a physical level when they are anxious, and to learn to release tension and emotions. This enables them to channel energy into action, and to find states of being peaceful and grounded. These exercises might sound a little silly, but just try them and see if they shift anything for you.
1. Body Opposites: Place
Anxiety can seem to happen all in your head, but it often comes with particular physical experiences: pain or tightness in the chest, shallow breathing, restless or tingly sensations in your limbs, or a sense of being spaced out or in a foggy cloud. These experiences are usually uncomfortable and disturbing, and are often even the source of more anxious thoughts: will this ever stop?
Let’s start by turning your attention inside, and noticing what you can sense in your body right now. If there is an uncomfortable or negative sensation, focus on that for a few seconds, and notice where in your body you sense it the most. Try to give a very physical description to it, e.g. tight, tense, heavy, empty.
Now scan around your body for where is the *least* like that: a little bit less tense, a bit less heavy. Take your time. It could be anywhere. Maybe your feet or hands. It doesn’t matter. What you’re going to do is to focus on that place for a couple of minutes, as if you’re really curious about it. As if you’re giving that place a chance to take up some space with whatever sensation is there. It doesn’t mean we’re ignoring the uncomfortable place; we’re just shifting the focus for a little bit. After a couple of minutes, check in again with how you feel in general. What did it do to focus on that place? Did anything about your breathing change, or the way you sense yourself as a whole?
2. Body Opposites: Image
This step follows on from the last one. Allow yourself to return to the uncomfortable or negative sensation for a bit. It’s probably quite easy to recall how it feels, but if it doesn’t come straight back, then think of a situation that makes you anxious for a few seconds, and then check in again with how your body feels. This time, try to give an image to the sensation. Let your imagination jump to whatever pops up first.
If you’ve been sitting down until now, stand up at this point. Now ask your imagination to tell you what would be the opposite of this image. It absolutely does not have to make rational sense; for example, perhaps the opposite of feeling wrapped in chains is the image of a radiant lighthouse.
Focus on this image for a few minutes. You don’t have to try and achieve anything, or force anything to change. There’s no way of doing it well. Like before, try to just be curious about what might happen if you focus on this image. Be really specific about it. Explore it. Look for what you can smell, what you can feel on your skin, what colours are associated with this image. After a couple of minutes, again check in with your body and if there are any different sensations now to before. Focus on those for a minute.
Often the advice to do with anxiety focuses on relaxing, but for anyone who’s experienced anxiety this usually feels pretty impossible. I like to start with activating first, and let the relaxation come later. Anxiety is like being charged up for action with nowhere to put the energy. If we bring consciousness to this sense of being charged up, we can start to do something about it and take control of our sensations. Focus on where you can feel tension in your body. Often it’s more towards our center line. Now we’re going to intentionally create and release tension in our limbs, shifting attention to our extremities, which are places that are useful to tap into in order to regain a sense of our bodies as strong and able places.
First, focus on your shoulders, arms and hands. Over 10-20 seconds, gradually tense them up til they’re fully charged, ending with your hands in fists. Watch them as you do it. Then for about 30 seconds, let them relax again, as if you wound up a spring or coil, and now you’re letting it unwind. Do this three times. Notice if this had any effect on your breathing or your body sensations.
Second, focus on your legs. Again, gradually tense your legs and buttocks, imagining you’re pushing against the ground, or the chair if you’re sitting down. Then gradually let go. Again, do it three times in total, and check in again with your whole body afterwards.
4. Breathe Big
There’s a lot of advice to do deep diaphragmatic breathing to calm down anxiety. But as with the last point, my approach is to use activation as a way to get to that sense of grounded calm. Anxiety can feel like being full of restless energy but at the same time frozen in place or stuck, which is a horrible feeling. We’re going to combine movement with breathing to encourage the nervous system to rebalance itself, using breathing both to gain energy and to release it.
First, stand up, and with your arms stretched out towards the ground, palms down, you’re going to bend your knees til you’re halfway to the ground. Then inhale as you gradually stand up and bring your arms up, straight in front of you, til they’re above your head. Let the arms be soft at the elbows and wrists, a bit like water. Pause a moment at the top, and then exhale as you let your arms softly sink down and you dip deep into your knees. Your palms face down on the way down too, so that it’s like stroking an enormous tiger in front of you! As you get to the bottom of the breath, imagine you’re sending any energy you don’t want back down into the ground. Do five or six breaths.
Second, we’re going to expand the movement to the sides. This time your legs stay straight, but relaxed at the knees. With palms facing down, move your hands forwards away from your hips to the front, and let your hips glide to the back, tail bone curled under and back rounded, as if you open up the space between hands and hips. Then lift your arms up above your head, and gradually straighten up, as if a wave rolls gently through your back. Then bring them down your arms out to your sides, palms facing away, so they describe a big circle around you. Inhale on the way up, exhale on the way down. Imagine as you breath in you draw in energy, and as you breath out you create a protective field around you to the sides. Do another five or six breaths like this.
Now let’s switch the direction. As you inhale you’re going to bring the arms wide out to the sides, and describe the circle by going upwards. Palms face up, as if you’re scooping up water or energy. Then pause a moment at the top, and bring your arms down with your palms facing in towards you, as if you let that watery energy wash over your face and body, as if it cleanses you like a giant waterfall. Do five or six breaths with this movement.
Now check in with how you feel in your body after this breathing. Did anything change at all? Focus on that. If you like these breathing exercises and want more, check out Lee Holden’s nice qi gong video on activating your energy.
5. Walk in Green Places
Walking can have a very calming effect, and even more so when you’re among green, and when you can manage to focus a bit more on your body and your surroundings than on your thoughts. Try slipping a ten-to-twenty minute walk into your daily routine, and walk somewhere where you can walk in a park – however small – and look at some trees, or see some water, whether it’s a stream, a canal, a river or the sea. Maybe it means a slight detour, or parking or getting off the train or your bike slightly earlier than usual, and walking the last bit of your journey. Or you could do a morning stroll around the block and back home again. Try to leave enough time so that you’re not in a rush and can walk a little slower than normal.
Look at the leaves on the trees or on the ground, the patterns made by the light and shade, and the twisting unpredictable shapes of the branches. If there’s water, watch how it moves, and how the light changes. Use looking outside at nature to let your thoughts go to how everything is in constant flow and change. Or think about the ways you are connected to what you see – the tree’s leaves produce oxygen for us to breathe, the water evaporates and produces the rain we need to nourish the things we eat.
As well as thinking about your natural surroundings, walking is also a great time to bring your attention towards sensing your body. It’s like moving mindfulness. Pay attention especially to your feet on the ground, and your legs moving at your hips. Maybe you can land a little softer than normal. See if you can relax your lower back and pelvic/hip area a bit, as if your legs could swing more easily in their sockets, or as if you’d let your tail bone drop down so that it’s painting a line on the floor underneath you. Walking like this can feel a bit like a lower back massage sometimes!
Finally… if you tried these steps, I’d love to know how it was, and whether it was helpful at all. You can write to me using this link. A modified version of this article also appears in PsychCentral Mental Health Library pages here.